A Touch of Spring (And Sweaters) #OOTD

statuesmall

flowers1small

Monday, being Presidents Day, was a day off of school for me. (Thanks, Mr.President(s)!) My mother, the knitwear designer, wanted to take some photos of one of her new sweaters at the local conservatory, so I decided to take some photos of the outfit I had chosen that morning too.

outfitstandingsmall

flowers4small

gardenstatuesmall

My very favorite room in the conservatory is the Sunken Garden because it is always filled with light and they switch out what kind of flowers are there depending on the season. During the holidays it had been filled with poinsettias, but they must have recently switched those out for pretty pink spring flowers.

flowers2small

gardensignsmall

gardenrailingsmall

As it was pretty cold outside I was a little over dressed for the heat of the conservatory. Minnesota in February is really all about layers on layers on layers. I especially like this cropped sweater and button down shirt combo with my usual skinny jeans. I also love this layered necklace I bought at an art show in fall. With the bright red stone it’s so different from anything I see in stores!

outfitsittingsmall

Ombre Beanie (knitting pattern) // Aeropostale Plaid Shirt (similar) // Delias Cropped Sweater (similar) // Aeropostale High Waisted Skinny Jeans // Layered Necklace (similar)

Bonus: Me attempting to imitate the statue’s pose. 😉

sillystatueposesmall

Let’s Give Our (Fictional) Girls Some Slack

Thanks to the above tweet, and Alex @ Fiery Reads’ discussion post about female villains, I’ve been thinking about this topic a bunch lately: Do the majority of readers have more sympathy for male anti-heroes? Do we condemn female characters for the same reasons that make us love certain male characters?

After going over examples of popular characters, I have come to the conclusion that yes, we (as readers) seem to have less or no sympathy for female characters that do bad things.

I’m not talking about “badass” female characters who could kill, and probably have, to achieve such-and-such or save the world. There are already plenty of people who love characters like Celaena from Throne of Glass. Instead, I am talking about female characters who are capable of nastiness, and have done terrible things for a “bad” reason, or for no reason at all. Female character who are flawed, mean, or even downright homicidal.

Chances are, you’ve heard the words ‘unlikeable character’ thrown around in book reviews or in just commentary on books in general. Now, think about who that label was being applied to. In my experience, ‘unlikeable character’ is a descriptor almost exclusively used for female characters. For some reason, people don’t seem to like female characters who are selfish or rude, while they love male characters who exhibit those same traits.

I’m not totally blaming readers for this phenomenon. Perhaps, we like those not-so-perfect-human-being male characters because they are often love interests for at least a portion of the book. In some ways, I also think male anti-heroes and villains are more often framed as a sympathetic character within the story itself. Beyond the love interest thing, they are given reasonable motivations to be terrible, and are often given some sort of moment of redemption.

These two elements are valid reasons to like certain flawed male characters, but I don’t think the lack of those elements is reason enough to condemn their female counterparts. I personally love certain female anti-heroes that I hear of many people hating because they’re “aloof” or “mean” or even “annoying,” while loving male characters that kind of… do the exact same things. I think everyone, when they find themselves disliking a character, should access why that character is disagreeable to them, and whether they like similar characters that just happen to be male.

Don’t think that I’m trying to say that you need to love every female character. There are plenty of female characters that I despise with a fiery passion. (see: Levana) I’m just saying that it is important to give female characters a little slack. Everyone makes mistakes (some larger than others) and you might find that you might find that you not only love them despite their flaws and shortcomings, but because of them.

The Farm 2016 // Photography

Every year me and my family have a “reunion” of sorts up at a place in Wisconsin called Palmquist Farm, which we have been traveling to and renting a cabin for the weekend from for pretty much my whole life. While we’re there we participate in winter sports like skiing and sledding, and just generally hang out for the weekend. (It’s a great time to get reading done) The place is also actually set up as farm and has a great rustic feel, so I decided to share some of my snapshots here today.

skisignsmall

barnsmall

cardoorsmall

ThisSavageSongsmall

pickaroonsmall

I Moved to WordPress!

If you haven’t already heard: ta-da, my blog is now self hosted through wordpress. *cue confetti* I am super excited about the change because the new platform is going to allow me to do ALL THE THINGS. I also think my new theme is super pretty, though I still have some modification to do.

The move hasn’t affected most things. I have imported all my past posts, and I am, of course, still the same great Tamara. However, there are still somethings that it will affect in various way to various degrees, so I have made a handy little list.

What does this mean for…

Okay, that should be it! I think this new era of my blog is gonna be great, and I hope you are willing to stick with me to see it.

See ya! -Tamara

Black Friday Clothing Haul

This year I went Black Friday shopping at the Mall of America for the first time, and it actually wasn’t too crazy. The Mall of America is one of the malls closest to me, so it really makes most sense to go there. We arrived around two o’clock after the morning rush had ended, and since we took public transport we didn’t have to spend time fighting for a parking space.

The first store I stopped at was American Eagle. Normally I don’t shop there because a lot of their clothing seems a bit overpriced. But for black friday everything was 40% off, so it was actually very reasonable.

Black Friday #1

At American Eagle I bought two pairs of leggings, one velvet and one patterned, a simple grey sweater and a loose-cut lacy purple shirt. I also got a free fleecy blanket (pictured in the background) with my purchase.

The next store where I bought things was Nordstrom. They didn’t really have black friday sales, but I did buy a chunky knit coral sweater dress (above) from the brand BP and a new winter parka style coat (below) from Topshop that I really love.

Black Friday #2